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    • Single Girl’s Tsunami Situation
    • The Tsunami Situation – September 2019 Debt Report
    • The Tsunami Situation – October 2019 Debt Report
    • The Tsunami Situation – Tax Edition
    • The Tsunami Situation – November 2019 Debt Report
    • The Tsunami Situation – Student Loan Edition
    • The Tsunami Situation – December 2019 Debt Report
    • The Tsunami Situation – January 2020 Debt Report

The Tsunami Situation – May 2020 Debt Report

June 1, 2020 by tanya

Each month, I record the balances on my debt obligations. The amounts shown in my debt report reflect balances as of the end of the previous month. First you’ll see the Table of Debt Slayed. This displays debts that have been paid off since I began my debt free journey.

Further below you’ll see my active debts in the Debt Report Table.


“How long should you try? Until.”

~ Jim Rohn

A few notes on the Table of Debts Slayed: 

(1) The Debt Journey Balance column reflects the balance on the debt as of the date that I started to get serious about my debt-free journey – July, 2019. 

(2) I’ve included in the Table of Debts Slayed, the balances I paid off for my 2018 Federal ($3,238) and State ($2,819) taxes, even though I paid them off the month after I learned about the obligation and the debts became due. I’m including them the list because they were significant amounts and were, technically, debts; I just paid them off quickly. I previously had not listed them in my Table of Debts slayed but am do so now.

(3) In November, I applied for and obtained a debt consolidation loan, which allowed for the payoff of all of my credit card debt. The credit cards listed, except for the Chase card, were paid off through the debt consolidation. Effectively, the debt was re-classified (which you’ll see in the table below) and not actually paid off. 

See the Debt Report Table below for the figures as of the end of May, 2020. It shows the updated order of debts to be repaid.

May, 2020 debt balances.

The difference between my March and April personal debt balance is $1,386. As I mentioned in my March Debt Report, I made some changes in light of the impact that COVID-19 has had on my business and, therefore, my income. With the downturn in my business and the uncertainty in my income, I decided to hold on to additional funds.

A few notes about the Debt Report Table:

New Debt Being Attacked – 2019 State Taxes

The debt that is highlighted in green is the debt that I’m currently attacking. For the last few months, that debt has been my 2016 IRS bill. Last month, it became this State tax bill. As I mentioned last month, though I have the money to pay this in full, I decided to go on a payment plan because, again, I feel it best to hold on to cash right now.

Estimates

An amount that ends in a “0” or “50” may be an estimate. Often times, the IRS website does not show updated figures. It will say that “information is not available,” so I make a guess, based on the typical monthly reduction amount. 

Three Payments That (Unfortunately) Go Up Every Month

(1) Internal Revenue Service (2017)

This payment goes up every month because the IRS system will not allow me to make payments on both the 2016 balance and the 2017 balance at the same time. I wanted to make small payments on the 2017 balance so that it wouldn’t go up every month. When I spoke with the IRS, they explained that they don’t allow for that. It requires that all payments be applied to the oldest balance due. That is why the 2016 balance goes down, while the 2017 balance goes up by about $64 per month.

(2 & 3) Navient Student Loans (Yes, Both!)

The balances for both Navient loans usually go up every month because I’m on an income-based repayment plan. Since the U.S. Government has given us a break on student loan interest and student loan payments (which began in mid-March), the balances didn’t go up. And since I didn’t make any payments, they didn’t go down, either.

Business Debt

May, 2020 business debt balances.

I’ve included the business credit card balance, even though I don’t pay that bill out of my personal income. Though the money that pays it comes from the business, I am the personal guarantor of it. So, technically, it’s my debt.

The difference between my April and May business debt balance is $583. This is about the amount by which I reduced this debt last month.

COVID and It’s Uncertainty

May was a month of little, but still some, progress. With the impact of the COVID pandemic still being as unprecedented as it has been, I think that my decision to hold on to cash was a good one. I know that things will change in the upcoming months. It’s just that none of us can be sure what those changes will be. I’d rather have some cash on hand instead of putting everything on debt right now. I can always make lump sum payments on my debt later.


Filed Under: Money Moves, The Tsunami Situation (Debt Report) Tagged With: Debt, Debt Report, Debts Slayed, Money Moves

Net Worth Statement – Q2 2020

May 5, 2020 by tanya

At the beginning of each quarter throughout this journey, I share my personal financial statement. It displays my net worth. This quarter, I’m running behind schedule. Sorry.

As I mentioned in my first Net Worth Statement, I have just begun tracking my net worth through this journey.

I’m sooooooooo looking forward to the day that I have a zero net worth!

Some notes:

  • The checking accounts amount includes some funds I’ve reserved for sinking funds. A significant portion of it is reserved for the HOA special assessment I am obligated to pay. Though the HOA special assessment was due (and I paid it) in February, the roofing project that necessitated the assessment hasn’t started due to the COVID-19 pandemic. Since the project is on hold indefinitely, the HOA Board was willing to refund half of the special assessment back to owners until the project is set to start.
  • The savings accounts amount is, basically, my “baby emergency fund” (a la Dave Ramsey’s Total Money Makeover), which is accruing interest. This will be changing soon. COVID has confirmed for me that the $1,000 baby emergency fund is not sufficient – even in the short term.
  • The real estate market value figure reflects the value of my property, according to Zillow.
  • I do have life insurance (even though I’m single and do not have children), but it is a term policy, not one with any cash value.
Net Worth Statement – Q2 2020

Though my net worth is negative and will likely be so in the near future, I’m going through this exercise for the practice – to develop the habit of consistently being on top of my full financial situation.

Here are some significant differences between my net worth for Q1 2020 and my net worth for this quarter.

  • My net worth decreased from -$63,366 to -$74,472.
  • My total liabilities decreased by $6,134.
  • My checking account balance went up by $2,840.
  • According to Zillow, the value of my condo decreased even further by $20,798.
  • Even though my total liabilities went down, the substantial decrease in the value of my condo negated all of any gains I made in my debt paydown.

The median net worth for my age (43) is $59,800. Obviously, I’m far below where I should be. But, that’s the point of this blog, right? I’m in a terrible financial space, totally not where I want to be, but now doing what I need to do to fix it. I’ve committed to being on this journey and, as Jim Rohn says, I’m going to continue to try . . . until. 

If you’re interested in the median for you age range, see below.

  • Age 35 or younger: $11,100
  • Age 35-44: $59,800
  • Age 45-54: $124,200
  • Age 55-64: $187,300
  • Age 65-74: $224,100
  • Age 75 or older: $264,800

I’m showing the median net worth because the mean net worth figures are much higher, since they are skewed by the net worth amounts of the uber wealthy (i.e., the billionaires). We know I’ve got some catching up to do. 

Where do you find yourself, considering the median figures above? How far ahead or behind are you?

Filed Under: Net Worth Statement Tagged With: Net Worth Statement

The Tsunami Situation – April 2020 Debt Report

May 3, 2020 by tanya

Each month, I record the balances on my debt obligations. The amounts shown in my debt report reflect balances as of the end of the previous month. First you’ll see the Table of Debt Slayed. This displays debts that have been paid off since I began my debt free journey.

Further below you’ll see my active debts in the Debt Report Table.


“How long should you try? Until.”

~ Jim Rohn

A few notes on the Table of Debts Slayed: 

(1) The Debt Journey Balance column reflects the balance on the debt as of the date that I started to get serious about my debt-free journey – July, 2019. 

(2) I’ve included in the Table of Debts Slayed, the balances I paid off for my 2018 Federal ($3,238) and State ($2,819) taxes, even though I paid them off the month after I learned about the obligation and the debts became due. I’m including them the list because they were significant amounts and were, technically, debts; I just paid them off quickly. I previously had not listed them in my Table of Debts slayed but am do so now.

(3) In November, I applied for and obtained a debt consolidation loan, which allowed for the payoff of all of my credit card debt. The credit cards listed, except for the Chase card, were paid off through the debt consolidation. Effectively, the debt was re-classified (which you’ll see in the table below) and not actually paid off. 

See the Debt Report Table below for the figures as of the end of April, 2020. It shows the updated order of debts to be repaid.

April, 2020 debt balances.

The difference between my March and April personal debt balance is an increase of $169. The increase is due to a new debt I have (see below). As I mentioned in my March Debt Report, I made some changes in light of the impact that COVID-19 has had on my business and, therefore, my income. With the downturn in my business and the uncertainty in my income, I decided to hold on to additional funds. That many of my creditors – Navient, Credit Union, 1st Mortgage and LendingClub – agreed to postpone or forebear payments made it possible for me to not stress too heavily about my significantly reduced income. Under normal circumstances, I would have paid all of my monthly payments and made an additional debt snowball payment that would have resulted in, at least, some kind of additional decrease of my debt. That did not happen this month.

A few notes about the Debt Report Table:

New Debt Being Attacked – 2019 State Taxes

The debt that is highlighted in green is the debt that I’m currently attacking. For the last few months, that debt has been my 2016 IRS bill. This month, it became a tax debt I now owe to the State for my 2019 taxes due.

I have the money to pay the bill in full. I decided to go on a payment plan because, again, I feel it best to hold on to cash right now. There’s a lot of uncertainty involved with this pandemic. I feel more comfortable having access to money.

Estimates

An amount that ends in a “0” or “50” may be an estimate. Often times, the IRS website does not show updated figures. It will say that “information is not available,” so I make a guess, based on the typical monthly reduction amount. 

Three Payments That (Unfortunately) Go Up Every Month

(1) Internal Revenue Service (2017)

This payment goes up every month because the IRS system will not allow me to make payments on both the 2016 balance and the 2017 balance at the same time. I wanted to make small payments on the 2017 balance so that it wouldn’t go up every month. When I spoke with the IRS, they explained that they don’t allow for that. It requires that all payments be applied to the oldest balance due. That is why the 2016 balance goes down, while the 2017 balance goes up by about $64 per month.

(2 & 3) Navient Student Loans (Yes, Both!)

The balances for both Navient loans usually go up every month because I’m on an income-based repayment plan. Since the U.S. Government has given us a break on student loan interest and student loan payments (which began in mid-March), the balances didn’t go up. And since I didn’t make any payments, they didn’t go down, either.

Business Debt

April, 2020 business debt balances.

I’ve included the business credit card balance, even though I don’t pay that bill out of my personal income. Though the money that pays it comes from the business, I am the personal guarantor of it. So, technically, it’s my debt.

The difference between my March and April business debt balance is $560.

Up until a couple of months ago, I had a business credit card that had an APR of 22.74%. In January, I thought that I had succeeded in obtaining 2 low interest business credit cards so that I could transfer the balance from my high interest business card (see Money Move – A Balance Transfer). What I did, instead, was get 1 card that would allow for a 0% interest balance transfer and another card that was 0% interest, but not on balance transfers.

What I decided to do was get a separate business loan with a low interest rate (well, lower than the 22.74% of the other card). I wrote about that here. Now, I’ve got one credit card and one business loan.

COVID, COVID, COVID

Last month, I wrote about needing to take the month of April to think for a second. I wanted to see how my income looked and also wanted to focus on getting used to living under lock-down. While I’ve now adjusted fairly well to lock-down, the money situation is still shaky.


Filed Under: Money Moves, The Tsunami Situation (Debt Report) Tagged With: Debt, Debt Report, Debts Slayed, Money Moves

The Tsunami Situation – March 2020 Debt Report

April 3, 2020 by tanya

Each month, I record the balances on my debt obligations. The amounts shown in my debt report reflect balances as of the end of the previous month. First you’ll see the Table of Debt Slayed. This displays debts that have been paid off since I began my debt free journey.

Further below you’ll see my active debts in the Debt Report Table.


“How long should you try? Until.”

~ Jim Rohn

A few notes on the Table of Debts Slayed: 

(1) The Debt Journey Balance column reflects the balance on the debt as of the date that I started to get serious about my debt-free journey – July, 2019. 

(2) I’ve included in the Table of Debts Slayed, the balances I paid off for my 2018 Federal ($3,238) and State ($2,819) taxes, even though I paid them off the month after I learned about the obligation and the debts became due. I’m including them the list because they were significant amounts and were, technically, debts; I just paid them off quickly. I previously had not listed them in my Table of Debts slayed but am do so now.

(3) In November, I applied for and obtained a debt consolidation loan, which allowed for the payoff of all of my credit card debt. The credit cards listed, except for the Chase card, were paid off through the debt consolidation. Effectively, the debt was re-classified (which you’ll see in the table below) and not actually paid off. 

See the Debt Report Table below for the figures as of the end of March, 2020. It shows the updated order of debts to be repaid.

March, 2020 debt balances.

The difference between my February and March personal debt balance is $1,504. Typically, the month-to-month difference has been at least $2,000. This month, that wasn’t the case because of the COVID-19 pandemic. With the downturn in my business and the uncertainty in my income, I decided to hold on to additional funds. Under normal circumstances, I would have made an additional debt snowball payment that would increased my paydown amount by several hundred dollars.

A few notes about the Debt Report Table:

The Debt Being Attacked

The debt that is highlighted in green is the debt that I’m currently attacking. Additional funds I have available for debt repayment go toward extra payments on this highlighted debt. The additional amounts appear as my “Debt Snowball” number in my budget every month.

Estimates

An amount that ends in a “0” or “50” may be an estimate. Often times, the IRS website does not show updated figures. It will say that “information is not available,” so I make a guess, based on the typical monthly reduction amount. 

Three Payments That (Unfortunately) Go Up Every Month

(1) Internal Revenue Service (2017)

This payment goes up every month because the IRS system will not allow me to make payments on both the 2016 balance and the 2017 balance at the same time. I wanted to make small payments on the 2017 balance so that it wouldn’t go up every month. When I spoke with the IRS, they explained that they don’t allow for that. It requires that all payments be applied to the oldest balance due. That is why the 2016 balance goes down, while the 2017 balance goes up by about $64 per month.

(2 & 3) Navient Student Loans (Yes, Both!)

The balances for both Navient loans go up every month because I’m on an income-based repayment plan. The minimum payments under the program aren’t enough to reduce the monthly balance. Once I take down the two IRS debts, I’ll start making payments on the student loans big enough to, at least, cover the interest.

Business Debt

March, 2020 business debt balances.

I’ve included the business credit card balance, even though I don’t pay that bill out of my personal income. Though the money that pays it comes from the business, I am the personal guarantor of it. So, technically, it’s my debt.

The difference between my February and March business debt balance is $500.

Up until recently, I had a business credit card that had an APR of 22.74%. In January, I thought that I had succeeded in obtaining 2 low interest business credit cards so that I could transfer the balance from my high interest business card (see Money Move – A Balance Transfer). What I did, instead, was get 1 card that would allow for a 0% interest balance transfer and another card that was 0% interest, but not on balance transfers.

What I decided to do was get a separate business loan with a low interest rate (well, lower than the 22.74% of the other card). I wrote about that here. Now, I’ve got one credit card and one business loan.

COVID-19 Brings Uncertainty

The COVID-19 pandemic has shaken things up in unimaginable ways. Right now, staying healthy and sane are my primary concerns. I’ve utilized the grace offered by some of my creditors, relieving me of having to make payments in the upcoming months. I did that as a precautionary measure, while I evaluate my income. I need a second to think. I don’t expect my debt balance to go down significantly next month.


Filed Under: Money Moves, The Tsunami Situation (Debt Report) Tagged With: Debt, Debt Report, Debts Slayed, Money Moves

The Manscape – March 2020

March 31, 2020 by tanya

Photo by Fix Rod on Unsplash

March was – let’s say – a very slow month. 

Adjusting to the COVID-19 pandemic has made this month unlike any other in my life – and the lives of most Americans. 

I went on one date early in the month. Thereafter, things started shifting as I learned more about the spread of COVID-19 and the necessity of social distancing. 

Jameson

Jameson reached out to me every day. At a minimum, he sends me a “Good Morning” text and a “Good Night” text. Throughout the day, he usually calls to check on me. At one point during the month, he brought me a flashlight because I didn’t have one. This was at the point that the American public was being told not to touch anyone and to stay away from others, but before I learned that even breathing in the same air as someone in a closed space could be a problem. 

I didn’t really need a flashlight. He uses any reason he can come up with to see me. It’s sweet that he likes to do things for me. He’s said that he likes to take whatever opportunity he can to see and/or speak. The flashlight was that reason earlier in the month. At one other point in the month, the reason was to possibly bring a mask and gloves (which he had not yet obtained). I haven’t seen him since he brought the flashlight. We’re both now clear that I won’t be seeing him or in any close contact with him for a while.

Whole Foods

This was the one date that I went on earlier this month. It was a very nice lunch date and we got the chance to catch up. Though our conversations are nice and cordial, we just don’t really have any chemistry – at least not on my end. 

We’ve spoken a couple of times since, but that’s about it.

The Original Whole Foods

I wrote about the immature dumb shit he did last month in the February Manscape report. I still haven’t heard from him.

Cigar Bar

Ahhhh. I did hear from this one in the middle of the month. Like The Original Whole Foods, he did a disappearing act last month as well. I hadn’t heard from him since mid-February – the week of Valentine’s Day until . . . March 17. Then . . .

His text: Hey, how are you? Are you staying clear of the coronavirus? 

My response: [Crickets]. 

And that’s the end of that story.

Mr. All Black

This one reached out as well. What I appreciated is that his text led with an acknowledgement that he went “MIA”. Because I respect that he started off with that, I was willing to converse with him. I knew, after how he had acted, that I wasn’t willing to deal with him in any significant way, but I was willing to talk to him. 

I was curious about why he went ghost. He started off by saying something about a car accident (even though it became apparent that the accident wasn’t on the day of our scheduled date). Eventually, he admitted that he didn’t think he had an obligation to communicate with me because we “weren’t that invested.” 

Cool. You’re right. We weren’t invested. But, we had a date scheduled for a specific day and time. The fact that we hadn’t spoken much before then doesn’t matter. What matters is that you said you were going to do something (which let me know the location of our date) and, instead of calling or texting to cancel the date, you disappeared for 4 weeks. That’s stupid and immature. 

When I was talking with him, I told him exactly how I felt about it. He apologized and admitted that he should have taken a different approach. I don’t expect to speak with him anymore.

Self-Isolation

The rest of the month was pretty quiet, like I said. I’ve texted and done some phone and video talking and flirting with a couple of guys I know, but that’s about it. I don’t intend to see any guy in person for a number of months. I’ve wrapped my mind around the likelihood of me being holed up in my condo until at least August.

Filed Under: Lifestyle, These Dudes (Dating) Tagged With: The Manscape, Valentine's Day

Choose Wisely – Side Hustle Edition

March 26, 2020 by tanya

Photo by Garrhet Sampson on Unsplash

When the status quo gets interrupted, one is forced to pay attention and make an assessment. I’m referring to a true, honest assessment. No delusion. No excuses. No fiending ignorant. Right now, one can either act like a deer in headlights, or recognize what’s happening and take action. 

We’re in the midst of a pandemic. The novel coronavirus, COVID-19, has upended life in the United States and other parts of the world. Local governments are minimally operative, restaurants and many other businesses are closed (with restaurants being allowed to provide food via take out and delivery). Individuals are being asked (or in some cases, being mandated) to stay at home. Many hospitality and retail workers have lost their jobs. Others are working from home. When outdoors, many of us are practicing social distancing by staying at least 6 feet away from other people.  If you’re living in the United States, you know that life is very different right now. People’s lives are at stake. So are people’s livelihoods. 

The economy is in shambles. In addition to worrying about staying healthy, many of us are concerned about how we will continue to earn income and be able to provide for ourselves and our families. 

We hear about multiple streams of income. At this point, we’ve heard it enough to know and believe that it is absolutely the way to go to not only increase income, but to hedge against risk. If one source of income disappears or becomes unstable, the other sources of income can take up some of the slack. We get that. It makes perfect sense. 

To rely on one source of income is silly.

~ single girl

That’s why we have such a strong side hustle zeitgeist these days. In addition to someone’s day job, they also drive Uber (and Lyft). In addition to working as an employee for one company, people freelance on the evenings and weekends as a contractor.

I, too, totally understand and believe that multiple streams of income are necessary – absolutely necessary. To rely on one source of income is silly. So, like many, I have other hustles. In addition to having  licenses to practice law in 2 states, I also have a real estate sales license, and 2 securities sales licenses (see my post https://singlegirlslaysdebt.com/a-14000-windfall/ about a $14,000 commission I made last year). I’ve also done some teaching.

My rationale in choosing these additional income sources was that they could provide me with  higher paychecks. With real estate and securities sales, agents (in the case of real estate) and representatives (in the case of securities) get paid commissions. So, what you make is based on a percentage of the deal. If the deal is a small one, the commission will be small. If the deal is a big one, though, the commission will be much larger. Since the amount of work necessary on each deal isn’t always commensurate with the price on the deal, the idea of getting a commission seemed like a really good idea to me. But it wasn’t such a good idea – not when I want my hard work to be smart work. 

When I got into my side hustles, I thought they made perfect sense. They relate to what I already do, so I thought I’d be in a good position to utilize the knowledge, network and background I already have. It was a good natural next step. From a short-term perspective, I guess it makes sense. At least, I thought it did. 

Here’s where I made a misstep: I chose side hustles that don’t properly leverage my time, even though they’re “professional”.  The problem is that my side hustles involve the provision of professional services – and I am the provider of the services. I didn’t use my knowledge and background to create products that could be sold time and time again and that could produce money even when I’m not actively working. Instead of taking the time to create at least one income stream that isn’t directly related to my time, all of my side hustles are based on my individual effort. Not the best idea. 

 I’m still trading my personal effort for money. He regrets it. I don’t want to be his age and be regretful too.

~ single girl

I recently spoke to a man who has been in the securities industry for over 30 years. I asked him what he would have done differently, knowing what he knows now. He said that he would have built a business that wasn’t so dependent on him – something that could be deemed an asset that could be sold. With the choices I made for  side hustles, I am on the same track as this guy. I’m still trading my personal effort for money. He regrets it. I don’t want to be his age and be regretful too.  

The good thing is that, with additional licenses and services I provide, there can be more checks and the checks can be bigger. The bad thing is that, if I’m not working, there are no checks. I’ve positioned myself to be able to make more money, but that position is one that ties me to trading hours for dollars. And all of my dollars are tied to me doing the work. None of my side hustles can function in my absence. I haven’t set up streams of income that don’t rely on my continued, individual effort. In the same way that a stock portfolio should not be limited to just one stock or one industry, my income streams shouldn’t all depend only on my individual efforts. This model that I’ve set up is stupid. Really stupid. 

Filed Under: Money Mindset, Side Hustlin' Tagged With: Coronavirus, Multiple Streams of Income, Side Hustles

Coronavirus Cocoon

March 20, 2020 by tanya

Photo by Lisa Fotios from Pexels

In my last post, I wrote about seizing this mandated seclusion as an opportunity to get some things done. I’m committed to taking my own advice. 

For the last couple of months I’ve been feeling led to “go into the lab.” The lab is where things happen – a place that doesn’t get penetrated by outside influences. It’s a place designed for focus, creativity and innovation. I’m not sure who originated the term, but I’m familiar with it because I’m a hip hop fan (90s and 2000s hip hop, since I can’t even understand what these new hip hoppers are even saying) and I went to college on the East Coast. I heard the term a good bit in my late teens and early 20s. 

“The Lab” – The lab is any place where you can go to focus, practice your skills and get work done. Go to the lab when you need to straighten something out.

~ Urbandictionary.com

I’m feeling the need to really buckle down, focus and make significant progress on some things that I need to get done. And I’m feeling like I need to take some extraordinary action in order to get the extraordinary results I’d like to get. Sometimes, that’s necessary – big action for big results. 

When I was studying for the bar exam, I was laser focused. In the initial months of my studying I went to work, worked out, cooked, went to church and studied. That was about it. I didn’t go to social events. I didn’t shop (other than for food). In the final 2 weeks of before my exam, all I did was study and exercise.  Nothing else mattered to me at that time. I had to pass this exam! I was willing to cut out anything unnecessary in order to do that. I didn’t want to go through the process of studying for months again. So I ate, breathed, and slept the bar exam materials. And I passed. 

My bar exam success was based on 3 months of focused time and effort. I’ve learned first-hand what that level of focus can produce. There’s tremendous value in focus – in deciding upon a particular thing and working toward it.

I wish everyone well, but you need to focus on yourself. You need to stop putting your hand out. Everyone wants handouts. Everyone wants things for free. You’ve got to put in the work. You’ve got to grind. You’ve got to go through the struggle, and you’ve got to get it.

~ Conor McGregor

I’ve learned that guys call an extreme version of this isolation and focus “Monk Mode.” I say that it’s an “extreme version” because Monk Mode includes the cessation of indulgences in sex, porn, masterbation, alcohol and some other things in which a true monk wouldn’t engage. I don’t know if I’m committed to giving up aaaaallllllll of that at this time. I’ll marinate on it. 

A tip that I’ve come across in learning more about Monk Mode is that it is critical that one  have very clear, hopefully quantitative, goals for one’s focused isolation time. In other words, like other goals or processes that involve sacrifice, the “why” must be very clear and motivating. 

I’m feeling the need to really buckle down, focus and make significant progress on some things that I need to get done. And I’m feeling like I need to take some extraordinary action in order to get the extraordinary results I’d like to get.

~ single girl

While I’m still in the process of figuring out what my cocoon will look like and what the exact, defined goals would be, I do have some ideas. For example, during this time period, I won’t be going on dates that I don’t really, really want to go on (compare this to being “fine” with going out with that person and seeing what they are like). This will mean that my focus will be on activities that make me and my business better and limiting or diminishing non-productive activities. I’ll be very conscious and conscientious about what I’m consuming (from food and liquids to written and video media). My communication with others will be more controlled and regimented (i.e., I won’t allow for as many random conversations throughout the day). These are just some ideas. 

I was feeling this way before the whole coronavirus self-quarantines and social distancing that we’re doing now. Considering what is going on, I’m thinking that now might be a good time for me to get started with this or to, at least, start preparing to do it.

Filed Under: Lifestyle Tagged With: Coronavirus, Focus, Monk Mode, Solitude

4 Great Things To Do While You’re Coronavirus Cooped Up

March 17, 2020 by tanya

Photo by noor Younis on Unsplash

The coronavirus has life around the world in upheaval. The crazy thing is that with me stating that “the world” is in absolute shambles, I’m not exaggerating – at all. Economic markets are volatile, people are staying away from each other in order to help contain the virus, and there is a general, heavy sentiment of uncertainty not just in the United States, but in many other countries. 


That said, I understand and support the fact that we really, really need to isolate ourselves to reduce the spread of the virus. I’m all about that #staythefuckhome life.

In addition to the good staying home provides in helping to reduce the spread of the virus, staying home also presents some other great opportunities. While staying healthy (and trying to help keep others healthy), there are several things we can do to make the best of being cooped up in the house. 

(1) Clarify and Decide

Are you in the same position now as you were during the 2008 economic downturn? Now is the time to think about and plan for how you will position yourself to be in a better position for the next downturn. It is important to see things for how they really are, then become very clear on what you want them to be. 

What’s your current situation? What kind of job do you have? What is the likelihood that your employer will be able to continue to stay in business and pay you if the current circumstances continue for much longer? 

What I’m getting at is that this is a chance to start playing chess, instead of playing checkers from a strategic life standpoint.

What you have at your fingertips is justified seclusion. That’s really an opportunity to think. It’s a chance to stop moving through life unintentionally and to devise a plan. 

Write a clear vision for where and how you want to live the next time an event of this nature occurs. Economies are cyclical so be assured that another economic downturn will come – whether it’s due to a pandemic or some other reason. Something like this will happen again. Decide what you are willing to do to be in a better position when that happens. 

(2) Stop Procrastinating

You know all that stuff you’ve been saying you “need to do” but haven’t? Now would be a good time to start addressing those things. You have nowhere else to be! Since it’s not safe for you to be in these streets like you have been, you can tackle some of the projects that have been on the way back burner in your life for too long. 

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Procrastination also applies to the other things that you’ve been saying you need to do, but haven’t. Yesterday, for example, I had someone reach out to me saying that he’s been putting off adding his wife to the deed on their property and he doesn’t want to put it off any longer. Since I’m a business and real estate attorney, he reached out to me so that he could get the ball rolling on that process. 

Have you been putting off certain other “life stuff” that you need to start handling?

  • Do you have life insurance?
  • Do you have a will?
  • Do you have any of the pictures in your phone printed and hanging in your home? (There are online services that will do this for you.)

Now’s your chance to start getting some of those things off of your to-do list. 

(3) Get Your House In Order

This one piggybacks on the previous opportunity. You’re stuck in your home, so get it together. You know all of that stuff you’ve got around the house that you’ve been saying you’ll handle, but haven’t yet? Now would be a good time to start working on them. When was the last time you did a deep, deep cleaning? Are your cupboards organized or in disarray? What about that stack of mail that’s been sitting in a drawer or in a corner somewhere? Aren’t you tired of it? 

I’m a firm believer that one’s external environment is reflective of their internal environment – how they are thinking and feeling mentally. When I’ve got stuff all over my countertops and papers strewn all over my desk, know for sure that I’m mentally out of order. Sometimes the first thing I do to pull myself together is to pull my space back together. It makes a huge difference. 

I have 3 friends whose homes are in shambles. That’s not judgment – it’s fact. They are embarrassed to have visitors and they, themselves, don’t like their physical environments. Since I know them well, I can say that their minds are often as cluttered as their environments. And their embarrassment about letting others into their living spaces impacts their personal relationships. I think it also impacts how they feel about themselves. They live in a constant reminder that, though they feel they have some areas of their lives together, there’s at least one area where they’re really falling short.  

From the moment you start tidying, you will be compelled to reset your life. As a result, your life will start to change. That’s why the task of putting your house in order should be done quickly. It allows you to confront the issues that are really important. Tidying is just a tool, not the final destination. The true goal should be to establish the lifestyle you want most once your house has been put in order.

~ marie kondo

They won’t take the time and energy necessary to organize and to clean their environment.  And it really takes time and effort. A significant amount of time and effort. What should you have more of right about now? Time. But cleaning up and organizing is worth every minute. As famous declutter and organizer, Marie Kondo, says, “From the moment you start tidying, you will be compelled to reset your life. As a result, your life will start to change. That’s why the task of putting your house in order should be done quickly. It allows you to confront the issues that are really important. Tidying is just a tool, not the final destination. The true goal should be to establish the lifestyle you want most once your house has been put in order.” So, clean up. Declutter. Get your house in order.

(4) Buy Some Stuff

I’ve been reading and listening to financial and market commentary. Prior to the COVID-19 outbreak, financial experts were predicting an impending recession – a recession that was anticipated by late 2020 or early 2021. Now, financial experts are saying that a recession is almost certain (though one hasn’t yet been officially declared) and will be coming sooner than originally anticipated.

I will tell you how to become rich. Close the doors. Be fearful when others are greedy. Be greedy when others are fearful.

~ WARREN BUFFET

If you’re in the position to take advantage of the “on sale” stock market, you have an opportunity. If this continues too much longer, there may be some real estate on sale as well. Remember, some people thrive in economic downturns. Perhaps that can be you. 

Instead of considering myself to be “stuck in the house,” I view this as an opportunity to be “in the lab” (that’s a 90s hip-hop term). This is a time to do some evaluating and to get some things done. If you make this a Netflix and super chill situation, I’m pretty sure you’ll regret it later. Be well.

Filed Under: Lifestyle, Money Mindset Tagged With: Coronavirus, COVID-19, Productivity

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