March was – let’s say – a very slow month.
Adjusting to the COVID-19 pandemic has made this month unlike any other in my life – and the lives of most Americans.
I went on one date early in the month. Thereafter, things started shifting as I learned more about the spread of COVID-19 and the necessity of social distancing.
Jameson
Jameson reached out to me every day. At a minimum, he sends me a “Good Morning” text and a “Good Night” text. Throughout the day, he usually calls to check on me. At one point during the month, he brought me a flashlight because I didn’t have one. This was at the point that the American public was being told not to touch anyone and to stay away from others, but before I learned that even breathing in the same air as someone in a closed space could be a problem.
I didn’t really need a flashlight. He uses any reason he can come up with to see me. It’s sweet that he likes to do things for me. He’s said that he likes to take whatever opportunity he can to see and/or speak. The flashlight was that reason earlier in the month. At one other point in the month, the reason was to possibly bring a mask and gloves (which he had not yet obtained). I haven’t seen him since he brought the flashlight. We’re both now clear that I won’t be seeing him or in any close contact with him for a while.
Whole Foods
This was the one date that I went on earlier this month. It was a very nice lunch date and we got the chance to catch up. Though our conversations are nice and cordial, we just don’t really have any chemistry – at least not on my end.
We’ve spoken a couple of times since, but that’s about it.
The Original Whole Foods
I wrote about the immature dumb shit he did last month in the February Manscape report. I still haven’t heard from him.
Cigar Bar
Ahhhh. I did hear from this one in the middle of the month. Like The Original Whole Foods, he did a disappearing act last month as well. I hadn’t heard from him since mid-February – the week of Valentine’s Day until . . . March 17. Then . . .
His text: Hey, how are you? Are you staying clear of the coronavirus?
My response: [Crickets].
And that’s the end of that story.
Mr. All Black
This one reached out as well. What I appreciated is that his text led with an acknowledgement that he went “MIA”. Because I respect that he started off with that, I was willing to converse with him. I knew, after how he had acted, that I wasn’t willing to deal with him in any significant way, but I was willing to talk to him.
I was curious about why he went ghost. He started off by saying something about a car accident (even though it became apparent that the accident wasn’t on the day of our scheduled date). Eventually, he admitted that he didn’t think he had an obligation to communicate with me because we “weren’t that invested.”
Cool. You’re right. We weren’t invested. But, we had a date scheduled for a specific day and time. The fact that we hadn’t spoken much before then doesn’t matter. What matters is that you said you were going to do something (which let me know the location of our date) and, instead of calling or texting to cancel the date, you disappeared for 4 weeks. That’s stupid and immature.
When I was talking with him, I told him exactly how I felt about it. He apologized and admitted that he should have taken a different approach. I don’t expect to speak with him anymore.
Self-Isolation
The rest of the month was pretty quiet, like I said. I’ve texted and done some phone and video talking and flirting with a couple of guys I know, but that’s about it. I don’t intend to see any guy in person for a number of months. I’ve wrapped my mind around the likelihood of me being holed up in my condo until at least August.